still so fucking weird to go from real life, where a cis man being flamboyant/effeminate/camp is judged like 70+% by how he speaks and carries himself, to online queer communities, which often seem to have no concept of male gender non-conformity that doesn’t involve wearing a skirt
i promise you, a man can be fem to the point of being in danger while wearing literally exactly the same thing as a hypermasculine guy. a boring basic black suit. a t shirt and jeans. a UNIFORM. gender conformity is not only about what you wear
None of you have watched that heartbreaking scene in The Birdcage where Albert gives up wearing everything he likes to try and blend in for their son’s conservative prospective in-laws and is so awkward and uncomfortable that no one says much until finally he says, defeated, “I know what you’re thinking - dressed like this, I’m even more obvious, aren’t I?” and it shows.
Here, have your queer heart broken:
This is what I’m talking about. This is still literally how it is in most places in the Midwest if you’re trying to “pass” for straight/cis/whatever.
I cannot begin to describe how hard I cried when I saw this scene the first time and how confused my conservative family was as to why I was crying.
It’s so funny how literally the way a man holds his wrists is an indication of femininity but also people think it’s all about makeup and clothing. But we’re also at a point that if you have a suit that is any color other than black, dark grey, or navy, it’s flamboyant.
Men’s sartorial stylings are so rigidly controlled it’s painful. Tim Gunn here is at the very absolute bleeding edge of “acceptably masculine” here for most cishet men, just for some noticible stripes, patterns, and purple, and that’s before he even moves. This is how restricted it is.
But Trixie Mattel (out of drag here) wearing standard masculine garb is could still be deemed unacceptably feminine for body language alone.
This is why we talk about “toxic masculinity” – the idea that any expression of emotion besides anger or even wearing colorful clothes is non-masculine and therefore restricted is horrifying. It sucks! Men should be allowed to express themselves outside of a tiny box of acceptable behavior, because they’re, y'know, people, and people have a wide range of expression in the way they like to look and move and act.
I honestly feel like it’s gotten worse over the last couple decades, too. If you look at men’s fashions from the 70s and even into the 80s, there’s a lot of style choices that look pretty cringe to us, but…. you also see a lot more color and pattern in suits than you do now. I’m not sure when this started to shift, or if it’s tied in to the increasing lack of color in all consumer products, but it sucks.
y’all killed off a LOT of our poor people less than a century ago which also tends to skew the average
remembering that time I explained on Twitter that Jews are 0.2% of the world’s population and control like 1.2% of its wealth
while Christians are 30-something percent of the world’s population and control 55% of its wealth
so, like, there IS a minority of the world’s population controlling the majority of its wealth
Christians.
and of course a bunch of utter walnuts were like “SEE??? this proves that Jews ARE disproportionately wealthy!!!”
which, like, sure
sure
we have $1.20 to Christians’ $55
but sure, individually we average out to having a bit more pocket change than the world’s average
a couple of things, though:
-those are AVERAGES—it doesn’t mean that every Jew you meet is wealthy, especially because…
-we are such a small population that the existence of *one Jewish billionaire* would skew the average, learn what an average is ffs, if there are 10 of us and 1 is a billionaire and the rest of us have $0 dollars, on average we each have $100,000,000 but in reality 9 of us still have $0 dollars
-y’all killed off a LOT of our poor people less than a century ago which also tends to skew the average
The minority group (in the sense of being less than half the population; they’re still the largest religion) controlling the majority of the world’s wealth is Christians. Sorry about your favorite conspiracy theory.
i want to print that out and staple it to ppl's foreheads. a lot of the jews who fled extreme violence, genocide, and ethnic cleansing were only able to do so because they had the funds. those who couldn't afford to leave were killed. and those who were barely able to scrape by enough to escape usually were forced into assimilation wherever they immigrated because poverty doesn't give you much of a choice.
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Nice illustrative example of correlation not equaling causation.
reasons new pickup trucks suck:
oh also market research suggests people who buy trucks and SUVs are more likely to be assholes lmao
basically, watch this video if you need more reasons to hate trucks:
Also -- a lot of truck buyers don't want their trucks to be that big. They just end up with them because those are the only trucks they can find. Ford introduced the Maverick in 2021 - a truck the same size as a 1990s Ranger - and it sold out in a couple months for the 2022 model.
The 2023 model sold out in less than a week when they reopened order banks in September of 2022.
Right now (July of 2023) the 2024 order banks are open, and some dealers have so many unbuilt 2023 orders they aren't taking any new ones -- filling all their allocations with unbuilt 2023 rollovers. It's outselling every mid-sized truck except the Toyota Tacoma.
And it would probably outsell that, if Ford could build enough of them.
So combine the weird fetish with trucks we have in this country with a lack of small trucks being available for those who actually do need a truck and we get this clusterfuck.
anyone who acts like there's some kind of implicit understanding or sisterhood between all women is straight up lying
i made this post specifically about a friend of mine, so let me say this: if you want to be a girl, but feel like you can't because you would never be comfortable in The Club of Womanhood, don't worry! feeling like an alienated little weirdo who will never Get what other girls seem to pick up naturally is in fact an extremely Girl experience
